Enter the Shadow Valley
Come with me through the shadow valley - it will help you attract the love and the life you want! It can be mysterious, dark, scary, even exciting and fun - but I wouldn't call it easy.
Not all people want to go through the Valley, and nor should they, it’s not for them – they have a different path into the light for example through music, travelling and so on. For some though, the valley leads us to the lush green grass, dappled light, and freedom of the other side.
I am talking about inner work - entering our own minds, hearts, patterns and beliefs in order to clear them and arrive at a more fulfilled and free life. There’s no real arrival point, the work keeps going but there is a tipping point where, if you do the work life becomes easier. This work increases how effective and joyful you are at work, in your health, and relationships. If you are going to love someone for the rest of this life time, and possibly even grow new humans with them, it’s a very good idea for each of you to go through the Valley a little (or in my case, a massive big lot!) before you meet them. It’s also so important while dating, and after you are in relationship to helps things go more easily in life, and love.
Inner Work changes EVERYTHING!
I used to choose difficult partners and have unhappy relationships. After commencing focussed and deep inner work the pattern changed. I then chose partners who were a joy to be with. Sure, we both still had issues and patterns – being perfect is impossible so I don't recommend trying! It was such a breath of relief to find myself choosing in this new way!
How can you find that special someone whose brand of tricky is the kind of tricky you can joyfully live with?
Most are ok with their partner having issues that will give them a bit of fodder for growth and challenge. And, in the most part, this relationship needs to remain a positive influence on you, your life and the world around you. If that kind of connection has not been your experience up until now it’s time for a change. As soon as you and your vibration changes, you will attract and be attracted to different kinds of people - how we get there is through inner work.
Inner work, therapy, meditation, yoga – there are so many roads that can lead us through the Valley, especially if done with intention. Even when off for a swim you can consciously take your issue, for example a fear of being vulnerable in love again, into the water and ask the waters to help you let it go. You can also see a psychologist, life or love coach or a skilled and deeply in tune healer.
I do this because I know it works…
As an attract love coach, I help you get clear on your goals, and move toward them through inner work, empathetic listening, accountability and transformational tools. Sometimes, I recommend people see a psychologist at the same time as seeing me, or before seeing me. Some people would never go to therapy but seeing a healer or doing some inner work during coaching is doable for them. Whatever works and resonates for you personally, do it!
This isn’t magical thinking, such as ‘if I do this, my soul mate will rock up and life will be rosy’. Relationships are not a walk in the park that fix everything, but a call to being more of ourselves, to learn and grow together in love. Clearing stuck energy out of the past will enable you more freedom of choice, and more abundance in love!
We are all worthy of love and knowing this, and going for what we truly want in love helps us to live our very best lives. When we follow our bliss in this way, we influence the world to be a better place. Goodness knows we all need that in these times!
Entering the shadow valley through inner work on your own or with a practitioner can be challenging, yes, but the meadow on the other side is so lush and full of love and freedom that it’s definitely worth it. Maybe your own version of inner work is playing music, hiking or meditation - whatever you choose, just do it with intention. Intend that it will change your life for the better and watch the magic happen!!
Reach out for a free 15-20 minute chat on your personal situation – I would love to apply to be your guide during this part of your journey and help those shadows be a bit less shadowy and the lush green of the meadow arrive to you that bit sooner. I am so excited for you that you are reading this because although this road can be hard it’s so much better with a guide who knows how to support you!
Book here: https://ShannonIchikawaCoaching.as.me/CoachingChatthat it will change your life for the better and watch the magic happen!!