New love, young love – a guide to newness in love
Recently I’ve noticed young couples in love – the joyful glances and smiles! It’s so precious. How do we navigate the beginning of relationships and also keep relationships new over time?
What comes to mind for you when I say the words ‘young love’? What comes to mind for me is people who are very aware of each other when they’re in each other’s space, or even apart. I think about flirting, curiosity, games that are loving rather than manipulative, I think about courtship, attraction, chasing, and even new possibilities and the potentiality of love.
With many animals when they mate, the potentiality of love is very often about making babies! Kittens, puppies, cubs, fawns, foals!
If we think about cats in the wild, at first she keeps him at bay with lots of hissing and running away, fighting and carrying on. Then, if she likes him, she starts to lovingly half close her eyes at him and her hisses become less and less ‘go away’ and more ‘come hither’. In the meantime he is strong, patiently waiting and showing off his gorgeous mane.
Things are much more complicated w us humans. The part about whether she likes him or not is extremely important - because we might not want someone to come into our energy even if they are interested!
One thing I do notice, is that when people are newly in love, they are most definitely shiny and sharing their most beautiful divine light. That light has always been with them - back to beginning of time. It will always be with them and be them all the way to the end of time also. There’s something about new love that has us putting down our walls. It helps us to simply shine bright and allow that part of our selves to be shown. We are also very much appreciative of the light in other people that we in love with - we can see how everything they do seems to shine!
I went to yoga today, and the beautiful, inspired yoga teacher took us through a powerful journey. There was so much she said that was inspiring and helped me come home to my true self – my divine self. I’m so appreciative because it reminded me how important it is for us to be in touch with and shining our lights. Here are some of the quotes my yoga teacher shared today – “Ignite your light, Shine from within! We often try to seek the light in others but the light comes from within us. We are the light. The sun is a reflection of your light.”
How do we harness this aspect of ourselves and use this awareness to help us navigate new love in a way that’s like young love? Like young love, but also not like it. Making conscious choices about what aspects of young love we want to keep and what aspects didn’t serve us. A new love will not be the same as how we felt when we were younger, but it could most definitely be just as wonderful but in a different way. We can consciously shine our light, see the light in them at the same time as walking away if it doesn’t align to what we want and what we’ve chosen to attract.
Here are three main points to support you on this journey:
1. You are light
Remember you are light – get in touch with your light! Release everything from your life the dims your light – within reason. I’m not suggesting to throw away your job, friends and so on. I can help you work with these jobs or people that are not congruent with you shining your light because you’ll be less reactive to those patterns of behaviour and difficulties. Get curious about what movement, food, activities help you feel shiny and lighter and give them an in-depth go!
2. They are light
Consciously notice the light and the divinity of others. I think everyone has a core of Divinity and wonderfulness. It’s choosing to see patterns of behaviour as exactly that - behaviour, not the essential person. This is why I don’t use with ‘you’re being a good/bad girl are a good/bad boy’ with children. When we go release the narrative of good and evil, we will see that people are doing their best considering the circumstances they’ve grown up with. The trauma and patterns, the things that have gone on for them have caused the behaviour. This step in no way means to accept painful behaviour from people in our lives. It's an invitation to open to this paradigm which about love. The more we stay in the energy of love, the more we shine.
3. Honour your vision
Enjoy that new energy, the sharing of your two lights as you navigate a new relationship. And at the same time remember your true goals, feelings and thoughts about what you want in your life. Because that gorgeous attraction energy in the divine light can happen with all kinds of people! It doesn’t necessarily mean they’re all people you want to choose as your life partner. So get curious as to how you can navigate this time and the dance between enjoying the light of yourself, light of the other and making choices around what you want in your life. This about is the sacred choice of honouring your vision for love.
It’s been such a joy this month to have this inspiration around young love and new love and to write these thoughts down. I have so many techniques up my sleeve to help you along this journey – so make sure you get in touch for a free 15 minute online chat to talk through what aspect is currently needing support for you and to see if I have a coaching option that fits your situation. Book here: https://ShannonIchikawaCoaching.as.me/30MinChat
And make sure to remember to let your love light shine!