Letting your love-light shine!

When I say ‘let your love-light shine’, what does that mean to you? What I mean by it, is to show your vibe, your vibrancy, your true self. This is what makes us feel alive, attractive and attracted – all good things when it comes to love!

Most people tell me they want to meet someone who is full of life, someone right into being joyful and living the life that makes them feel happy. When our partner is on track and sharing that love with everyone and everything, life is good! Although, as they say, it takes one to know one - so what can we do to embody that ourselves more?

How can we be at the top of our game? That expression ‘top of your game’ also annoys me as I’m leaning into radical self-love - simply loving ourselves where we are right now. What I really mean is a continual choice to choose our happiness and what is for the good of all.

I’m not saying we don’t ever feel or acknowledge the contrast and shadows – read this blog about the importance of entering the shadow valley (oo, grabbing this from my website I have realised it was my 1st ever blog!). https://www.welcomelastinglove.com/blog/enter-the-shadow-valley

I’m not suggesting that we don’t have tricky patterns and thoughts that keep us up at night, or keep us in difficult cycles! What I am suggesting is that we keep making the choice to reach for what makes us happy. Doing this helps us elevate what I call our vibe.

For example, when engaging in dating apps to be in a high vibe gives you better results. When you go to a singles event, or make your Love vision board, or even simply going about your day, choosing the vibe that’s going to make you feel best will send an energy that is attractive out into the world.

I’m quite an outgoing person so it’s quite easy for me to be friendly, make chitchat with people. I know that’s not the case for everyone, however I have known many people in my life that are more of a silent type or just more quiet than me – this isn’t hard! However, when we make the choice over and over again to be in our joy, your love-light shines more – even in a subtle way!

Three sprinkles to love-light…..

#1 Self-care

I’m learning more about practicing self-care. Getting more sleep, choosing better food, moving my body more. I’m certainly not saying we need to aspire to having an Insta-perfect life where we’ve got all of these things sorted, however , I do pay attention to incremental changes because I know how potent and effective they are. When we show up more rested and nourished, it grows our self-love and therefore presence with ourselves and others which is very attractive.

Try it! I sometimes struggle with this one as my own worthiness issues have me more excited about changing the world and helping others than focussing inwards. But when I do do it, I notice the change in myself and the positive ripples around me, too!  

#2 Laughing

In 2010, I did my laughter yoga instructor training. It suits me so much - I laugh readily and much and it feels amazing! I definitely recommend finding a laughter yoga club near you, and getting the benefits of this beautiful fun practice. It’s both sport and inner work and so silly and fun!

If there are no laughter clubs nearby, simply do what makes you laugh more. Find things funny and laugh out loud, laugh alone, when you’re in company. Laugh more often and you’ll find that everyone laughs right along with you even if it’s not an actual joke! Watch the vibrancy from this trickle into your entire life.

It helps in dating so much as laughing helps us take ourselves and life less seriously, it lightens everything! When it comes to the dates we go on, when they can be held lightly, the pressure is off and we can have fun meeting someone new. This allows us to remain curious without the pressure of the possible furture looming.

Being silly and having a laugh with someone new can gently help walls come down and people to connect in a more genuine way.

#3 Practice deep tuning in.

Our intuition is a very deep, even if less obvious resource we have at our fingertips. Tuning into ourselves is essential as we get to know new people. Asking ourselves questions about how we feel within ourselves, with others and in new situations helps us make aligned decisions.

As a practice, live from an intuitive place.

What do you intuitively need right now? What about before going to a singles event or before writing a dating bio? Do you need some time outside in nature? Do you need to just take a load off your feet and read a book for 10 minutes?

Maybe putting on some essential oils will help you feel a calmer or more alive. Lavender is calming and peppermint is a pick me up. Need to do some journaling or EFT tapping to clear what’s bothering you right now?

Most of my blogs mention intuition! When I meet someone about to embark on a new adventure I often go on and on about intuition! We had a student stay with us and when he left on a hitchhiking trip, I texted him.. “Make sure you use your…..” He replied, “…intuition!”

When you commit and follow through with doing these three steps, you will be delighted with the results!

Send me a message and tell me how it goes. I’d absolutely love to hear what’s going on for you in this regard - anything large or small, my email address is shannon@welcomelastinglove.com

Go out there, get your vibe high so your love light shines and you call in an amazing love connection!